Relationships and life: putting the two together
Maintaining a ‘work-life balance’ is crucial to our happiness, or so everyone says. But what is a work-life balance? Is it having a 50/50 split between your social and professional lives?
Is it spending the most time on what’s important to you? Is it doing what’s best for your career and putting your friends/family/significant others second, third, and fourth?
I’ve always been of the ‘I do what I want’ mindset, so sometimes my personal relationships have suffered because of work or uni. I have friends that I haven’t seen in months, do they hate me? Gosh, I hope not! trying to maintain something less than permanent franticness?
Over the years, I’ve learned that the people you want in your life are the ones that want you to succeed in what’s important to you. If your friends/family/boyfriend/girlfriend/cat only want you to do what makes them happy, then, well, I hate to break it to you, they don’t have your best interests at heart. I’ve ditched friendships/relationships because they were too demanding, and I just didn’t have the time for that. I’m sorry that I have better/more important things to do, and my life doesn’t revolve around you. I know this sounds super bitchy (and maybe it is), but I’ve also been lucky enough to meet wonderful people who understand the pressures of uni, work, etc, and get that sometimes (like mid-term time), I won’t be able to go out and party. These are the people you want, the ones who’ll say ‘that’s fine’ (and mean it) when you have to reschedule plans, and who’ll study with you instead of going out for drinks during exam time.
This is not to say that you should be a shady, unavailable, distant person, but sometimes you’re not going to be able to be around for every personal drama or date night. Life gets in the way sometimes, that’s just the way it is. So put what’s important to you first, and what’s meant to be, will be (or something like that).
*If you’re wondering who the freaks in the photo are, it’s my highschool friends and I. We don’t see each other often but hey, we’re all busy, and that’s a-okay!